By the title of this blog post, you're probably thinking "this is weird" or super negative - not Steph style at all. But HOLD UP and let me explain what I mean.
Lifting weights is about failing. Depressing right? Nah, not really! Think about it. Each time I step into the gym I fail at my last rep or a can't perform a new PR (personal record). I always fail. Because that is what lifting is about. It's about pushing yourself to do X amount of reps, but the last one is a fail - the bar hits the ground. That is how you get stronger. That is how you push yourself physically and mentally.
For me, squatting heavy and benching is new. Those are movements I slacked on and avoided (p.s. don't slack or avoid those exercises - they are two of the best compound movements that will increase overall strength and change your body). I was afraid of doing them because I thought I was weak. But I toughened up mentally and started going heavier on my squat and got addicted to benching. I saw increases in strength each week #NewbieGains But soon, your body/strength stalls and that weight doesn't keep increasing at a steady rate. It's not normal to increase weight and strength so fast. That's when more failure sets in.
"Failure is not the opposite of success, it is part of success"
Do I get upset? Mad? Frustrated? Sure. I let it bother me for a second, but then I get back up and keep going because I'm so motivated to get into the gym and reach new potentials.
There is power in failure. Do I ever just give up and never train again? Of course not! Each fail makes me stronger physically and mentally. I know that I have progressed because even doing half of that rep used to be impossible for me. Give me some time and I'll be able to kill it again.
So the lesson here is that lifting, or fitness in general is all about failing. Not reaching that goal every single time. But what makes you strong is that you keep going. You keep working towards that goal. Failing is that motivation that keeps you going and pushes you to get stronger.
And guess what? Like I always say, fitness plays right into other aspects of your life. Maybe you didn't reach the goals you wanted to at the gym today, just like you didn't do so well at work or school today. But do you ever give up completely? NO. You keep going. You keep working. You keep pushing. Fitness enhances your life and gives you perseverance and confidence to be strong minded.
Do NOT be afraid of failure. Be afraid of not trying.