It started off as an innocent way to lose weight and get "healthy", but it turned into an obsession with calories.
Food was no longer enjoyed, instead it was looked at as good or bad. It was a number that made me fat.
I lived off of 500 calories. I was tired, weak, irritable, sad and just over it. But I was so obsessed and so controlled by it, that I couldn't stop.
That wasn't until I learned it was time to let go...
I learned that food wasn't the problem and my body wasn't the problem...
Control and sadness was the problem. I was lonely and scared and I took it out on my body for YEARS.
THAT is why I wrote Obsessed to Free, the guide to freeing yourself from obsessive calorie counting, dieting, over-exercising. It is your guide to self-love and peace.
CONFESSION! I ate multiple pieces of cheesecake, a burger and lots of other food I don't normally eat on a regular basis the night before this pic.
I LISTENED TO my body. I wanted it. I had it.
I did not get fat overnight (duh)! I had no guilt. And in fact, I had more CONFIDENCE than ever in a sports bra and leggings in the gym.
Intuition is everything. When you listen to your body. Your heart, your hunger, your thoughts, YOUR desires, your life can change. My life did.
But you need to be able to LET GO and be WILLING to be honest with yourself. We live in a society where we are TOLD what is right or wrong when it comes to eating habits, fitness, and how our body should look.
THAT IS NOT OKAY.
YOU ARE IN CHARGE.
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I need to tell you a secret...ugh..
I hate cardio. I also hate kale.
But I used to pretend to LOOOVE running on the treadmill for hours and hours a day because I was "just being healthy".
Spinach and kale were my dream foods because they were low in calories and I enjoyed the feeling of hunger. It gave me satisfaction.
Now, if you ask me to go for a run, I will 100% say no because I fucking hate running.
I don't want a kale salad. I probably want a burger or ice cream.
Yep, I said it. And YES I am now rocking a body I am proud of, but more importantly, I am rocking a LIFE I am proud of.
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Do you feel stuck in the diet mentality? Do you feel like you NEED to exercise a certain way just to fit in? Do you feel pressure from social media to look and be a certain way? Do you want to just feel free and trust yourself? Then this is for you. This 40 page guide will help you break free from all the pressures and obsessions we are stuck in. This is your go-to guide for life.
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Cravings. One of the common topics that come up when talking about food..
"How do I stop cravings?"
"I get crazy cravings every night. How do I stop it!?"
I find this topic very interesting because I NEVER get cravings besides the odd (and normal) omg I want a burger or that ice cream looks good kind of thing.
So the more I thought about it, I realized I don't get cravings because I am SATISFIED. I eat balanced and don't restrict myself, therefore I usually don't feel the need to want something LIKE CRAZY all the time.
So then why do some people get cravings all the time? Well, there are many reasons and the main one is what I mentioned above - they are restricting food throughout the day (or days) and eventually your body NEEDS it like CRAZY so they experience crazy cravings.
If you have a major sweet-tooth like I do, try Fit Joy bars! I eat them pretty much every day. I get my chocolate fix (they come in a million other flavors).
It makes sense, doesn't it? You don't fulfill your needs in a balanced way, you cut calories or food groups so OF COURSE your body is going to want it.
Restriction isn't the only reason, there are other triggers.
Emotions are another huge trigger. When you feel negative emotions, you want to fix that by feeling good. And food makes you feel good. So binging takes that "pain" away. But it's only temporary.
How do you fix it? Realize that your craving is not real hunger, it's an emotion and decide what you can do to deal with the negative emotion instead?
Sleep is another HUGE trigger! When you are sleep deprived, your body naturally produces the "hunger hormone", ghrelin. So if you tend to lack on sleep, you tend to eat more... and more "junk food".
Loneliness is tough to deal with and when you're lonely, just like other negative emotions, you want to feel better. Food becomes a friend. But does that fix the true problem?
Sometimes we confuse hunger with thirst. Are you drinking enough water throughout the day? When we are super dehydrated we tend to crave the salty stuff.
And another reason could be distraction, you eat and eat and eat and crave food because you eat while watching TV or a movie. You eat while you're on the phone, scrolling through Instagram. This causes you to associate food with that action, so every time you watch TV or whatever, you WANT food even if you aren't hungry.
Do you get a lot of cravings? Do you think any of these triggers are the reason?
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I am so over it.
I am so over hearing about diet trends and quick fixes. Why? BECAUSE THEY DON'T WORK!
Sure, you will see results short term, but they don't last. And more importantly they cause UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS WITH FOOD.
Any diet that tells you to omit food or food groups is not okay. You can live a healthy, fit, and balanced life while eating ALL FOOD IN MODERATION.
But what happens when you get stuck in the diet mentality and you can't get out!?
There are strategies to better your relationship with food...
You need to learn to trust your body again. And you CAN do it. But it will take some time and work. It won't always be smooth sailing, but honoring your hunger and eating foods you ENJOY is the goal. Everything in moderation. FIX your relationship with food TODAY.
I wrote this comprehensive guide on how to eat intuitively. Listen to your body. You will learn WHY you need to eat all food groups and HOW to fix your relationship with food.
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Obsessed To Free
Do you feel stuck in the diet mentality? Do you feel like you NEED to exercise a certain way just to fit in? Do you feel pressure from social media to look and be a certain way? Do you want to just feel free and trust yourself? Are you ready to gain YOUR CONFIDENCE and HAPPINESS BACK? Then this is for you. This 40 page guide will help you break free from all the pressures and obsessions we are stuck in. This is your go-to guide for life.
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This intuitive eating tool will help you better understand your relationship with food. It is designed to help you find patterns with your eating habits and emotions. You will record and keep track of your eating throughout the day, while also noticing emotions such as happiness, contentment, fullness level, and guilt. It comes with The Hunger Scale so you can rate your hunger level and assess if you are truly full, satisfied, starving, or over-full. This is something you can use throughout your life to help you gain a better relationship with food without counting calories ever again.
To The Bone is about a young 20 year old woman struggling with anorexia. Of course I was interested and intrigued and also quite terrified to watch this. Terrified because I didn't know if it would trigger or scare me, or if it would be the absolute worst representation of an eating disorder, or even worse... GLORIFY IT.
So, after watching it, what did I think?
Did it glorify eating disorders? No. I think it made them look scary and sick.
Is it triggering? That depends on the person. Some things may trigger you, while some things may not - it depends on your personal experience with an eating disorder. I was personally taken back by certain parts when it showed her sickly body because I remember looking and feeling that sick. If you find that it triggers you, it's okay to stop watching it, the ending sucks anyways.
Did it portray an ED accurately? Eating disorders are so complicated. Everyone experiences them differently. I do like how they showed the compulsive behaviours of calorie counting, doing sit-ups until she got bruises on her back, running/walking around the house to burn calories. I like how it showed that EDs are an addiction - they aren't about being skinny or not liking food.
I love that they showed a male character in treatment.
I like that they showed that the family doesn't truly understand it. And it can be so complicated and confusing for the family.
I liked all the different characters in treatment.
What didn't I like? I ended the movie confused. Where was THE WHY. It never got deep. It never got raw. I just ended. I wanted to know why she developed the ED. I wanted to know WHAT all lead up to this. Was it multiple things? I understand the family issues, but I wanted more. I needed more answers. This could leave someone watching it just assume that eating disorders happen, you get help and then it's over.
It never shows how hard it is to truly recover after. It never shows you hiding in your room because you don't want social interaction. You want to be alone with your ED.
I ended the movie confused and wanting more.
What really stuck with me was the obsessive behaviours and this is truly what fascinates me with eating disorders. But WHY do they happen? That is what I discuss and help YOU discover in my guide, Obsessed to Free.
I am glad this video started discussion, but I wanted more from it.
I will never forget the night my life changed.
I was having a bath and I remember thinking, "This is it. This is the most I will ever weigh. This is the heaviest I will ever be. Tomorrow I will start dieting".
And that's exactly what I did. But that innocent weight loss journey turned into an obsession with calories, exercise, and the scale.
All I did was think about how I could cut more calories and how I could run on the treadmill for longer. My sole purpose in life was to lose weight. My purpose was to be as small as I could be, because I thought the smaller I was, the better my life would be.
I look back and think WHY? Why did I go through this. And today I know that it's because my passion is helping YOU overcome the same things. Heck, it's to help you not make the mistakes I made.
It's why I now live every day fighting diet culture and digging deep into WHY we get so obsessed with these things. It's why I wrote Obsessed to Free.
I want to say that dieting ruined my life. That diet cultured fucked me up - because it did. But it also helped me find my purpose in life. Now I run a business based on the fact that dieting is STUPID and you CAN be fit, healthy, and love your body while still eating EVERYTHING in moderation.
Cut the counting calorie crap. Is it worth it?
Is counting calories worth the effort? Do you want to count calories for the rest of your life?
I seriously want you to ask yourself right now, IS IT WORTH IT? Is dieting and obsessing over your weight worth your life? Seriously. Is it taking over your life?
You ARE worth so much more. And you deserve freedom. You deserve to live freely without feeling restricted. You deserve to live without worrying about every single bite of food you put in your mouth. You are more than burning fat.
My guide, Obsessed to Free is the tool that will help you beat this obsession. It teaches you how to diet the diet, live and eat intuitively, workout in a way that you enjoy, beat the fight with the scale and seriously just love your body. Check it out below <3
I remember thinking at a very young age "I don't like my body. Why am I not like the other girls?"
I remember knowing that I had so much more inside of me that was waiting to shine through, but I was too scared to show it. Why? I thought that it was because I was ashamed of what I looked like. I thought I was fat and ugly and if I am fat and ugly then I can't be anything good.
As I grew older I realized it didn't matter what size I was, how much I weighed, or what I look like. I am who I am because of my heart and my soul. I am who I am because of how strong I am on my weakest days.
I am passionate and emotional AF. But I was so afraid to show that for 20 some years. But when you say "F it" and show who you really are, life happens and it is amazing.
But how did I get to hating my body to realizing I am worth so much more?
Throughout my childhood and teenage years I suppressed those negative emotions about hating my body. I just thought "whatever - this is something I will have to deal with".
But it wasn't getting me anywhere. It was holding me back.
No, my shape and size wasn't the problem. The fact that I THOUGHT I was ugly and worthless was the problem. I was so hard on myself. I thought I would never be "good enough" (whatever that is).
I was holding back because I was scared. I was scared that I would fail. I was scared that I'd be lonely. I was scared that I wouldn't have the perfect life.
Well, welcome to 2017. Life isn't perfect, yet we want everyone to think it is. As long as it looks perfect online, that's all that matters.
I struggle. I have ups and downs just like anyone else, but I don't ever let that hold me back anymore. I don't ever quit. I am strong because on my weakest days, when I want to quit - I KEEP GOING.
Your body is not the problem. Your size is not the problem. Those doubtful thoughts - THOSE are the problem.
You are worth more than you could ever imagine. It might time some work to figure that out, but once you do, your life will seriously change.
If you feel stuck thinking that your body, food, social media, pictures, comparison, etc. is the problem. Then Obsessed to Free is for you. I teach you how I went from obsessed with the scale and being negative with my body, to now loving a cherishing it. You deserve that love and freedom. Learn more below <3
Ohhh the good old before and after pics! We see them all over social media - people displaying their fitness transformation journeys. How EMPOWERING and MOTIVATING right?
Hmm... well, some people don't think so. Some people roll their eyes every time they see a before and after. WHY?
This fascinates me. Why do we get so heated about someone else's before and after? Is it because we are comparing ourselves to them? We don't look like them?
But I get it...
Say we did the exact same workout plan as someone else, but their before and after looks "better" than ours? DAMN. That sucks. Right??
Well, we need to realize some things here:
1. We are TWO different people.
2. Life gets in the way of plans and programs - hence why people have different progress in different amounts of time.
3. We shouldn't look like them - we aren't them.
4. A picture is just a picture.
5. Read the caption.
6. Think critically and know that it's just social media.
7. FOCUS ON YOU!
I am personally a fan of before and after pictures. I love seeing my progress instead of rating it on the scale or some other way. But of course, you can measure progress by strength in the gym, etc. I also LOVE seeing other people's before and after pictures and not just because of the weight the lost or strength they have gained, but the HAPPINESS and CONFIDENCE that now shines through because they achieved something they never thought they could.
Do you feel like you're comparing yourself to people A LOT online? That is NOT GOOD for yourself, or your health. Be you, focus on YOU. If you find that you are really stuck in this mentality, then I highly suggest you check out my guide Obsessed to Free.
It will open your eyes to think critically and focus on how amazing and beautiful YOU are without having to compare yourself to others.
Body image is such a f*cked up thing. One minute you can be feeling so fly, and the next, you want to crawl into bed and cry.
Did you eat something "bad"? Did you see an "unflattering" picture of yourself? Did you compare yourself to someone else? WHY did your body image change THAT FAST?
Honestly, your body does not change that drastically in minutes... so why does your body IMAGE?
Because that's exactly what it is - an IMAGE. We stare at it for too long that we begin to see things that aren't even there and blow things out of proportion. Do you think if someone else looked you, they would be thinking all those negative things too? NO. They WOULD NOT.
You might think they would, but it's an image. It's in your head.
Damn, I hate when people say that - "all in my head".
I used to think that my body could change instantly. Like it would literally be fatter the moment I ate food.
I used to cry and cry and cry because I thought I would gain 5lbs overnight.
But those thoughts aren't realistic. They are just thoughts. They are not true.
Finally I was able to find freedom and peace with my body and food.
I no longer cry and go into hibernation mode after eating something "bad". I'm okay. I live. I survive.
I did this by re-framing my thoughts. By asking myself questions. By rationalizing what was REALLY going on. The problem wasn't my body.
You can find that peace too. You NEED to find that peace if you want to live your life freely.
This is why I wrote you Obsessed to Free - the ultimate guide of how to stop obsessing over food, fitness, your body, social media and pictures of yourself.
Learn more through the links below. Let's start your journey to freedom today.